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The ABCs of my sticky brain
Hello friends, It has been a while since I have written a new blog post. I guess I’ve had a bit of writer’s block and couldn’t think of anything that I thought would be of interest to others. But someone asked me a question on Facebook, and it has given me some new ideas. So, thank you to that person who reached out to me. She wanted to know how I learned to spell before I knew how to express myself with typing. I didn’t start typing until I was around fifteen years old, but my relationship with letters goes back to almost the beginning. I was between two and…
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Teasing or excluding?
Hi everybody. Today I have been thinking about how I felt when I was young and going to public school and I wanted to write a post about it. I remember being in a line at lunch one time when some of the other kids in line were making jokes about those of us in the special needs class. The teacher who was with us quickly shut it down and we got our lunch and headed back to our classroom to eat instead of with everyone else in the cafeteria. I thought that was the wrong choice, just like I think contained classrooms are the wrong choice in most situations.…
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New friends and bright futures
Hello everyone, Today is the Motormorphosis conference in Herndon, Virginia. For those who aren’t familiar, it is the flagship conference of the International Association for Spelling as Communication (i-asc.org). This is a wonderful organization that help people with limited verbal language communicate by spelling. I was supposed to be at the conference but got sick with Covid this week so we had to stay home. But my older brother Ben and my sister-in-law Becky are there on my behalf. They showed me what it was all about over a FaceTime call. It was fun for me to see other people with autism like me who are using their talents to…
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Living in a speakers’ world
Hi everyone, I have been pondering a lot lately about what living in a speaking society means to those of us who are non-speakers. I recently learned that term, “non-speaker,” and how it is different from being “non-verbal.” I am verbal. I make lots of noises, sounds, and words. I can communicate simple things with words, but I am hindered dramatically when it goes beyond a very basic level. I certainly am unable to have a back-and-forth conversation about anything useful or important. So, in a speakers’ world, I am dysfunctional, a “non-speaker.” Human society is set up for speakers. Non-speakers are almost unrecognizable as people. We are more like…
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Through My Eyes: setting goals
Goals are important for everyone. They provide motivation and a pathway for self-improvement. Without some sort of goal, we will either wander without direction or, even worse, stagnate in the same place. I have learned for myself how important it is to set goals that will challenge me to push outside of my comfort zone. Hard goals drive me to really change for the better. But I also realize that I need to be patient with how autism affects my abilities to accomplish things that might otherwise be much easier. Today, I want to talk about what I have learned about myself by setting goals and working hard to achieve…
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Through My Eyes: feeling included
Hello again, everyone. Thank you for reading and I hope you are finding my insights helpful. Today, I want to talk about how difficult it is for people with autism and other disabilities to feel included by our more typical peers. I have mentioned in a previous post how I have frequently felt jealous of others who are my same age but were having vastly different experiences as they matured. An age-level appropriate education is one of those experiences, for sure. I would have loved to have been challenged in high school with real grades, AP tests, and college-entrance exams. But no one knew that my mind was capable of…
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Through My Eyes: speech is hard
Hi again, everyone. This is the third post in my series about what it is like to have autism. For those who haven’t met me, let me describe my current relationship with language and what the journey has been like for me. Speech is the natural way that most people communicate with each other and is one of the first things that we start learning as an infant. But for some reason, the brains of many people with autism work in a different way. For us, speech is hard. When I was diagnosed with autism as a young child, I had some verbal language. To clarify, I could say some words,…
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Through My Eyes: behavioral meltdowns
Hi, everyone. I appreciate the great response to my last post about autism symbols and how I would prefer to be seen as an acorn with great tree-like potential rather than a random piece of an unsolved puzzle. Today, I want to focus some attention on an uncomfortable topic for me: behavioral meltdowns. These are dreaded by teachers, principals, therapists, and parents, I’m sure, but maybe you are not aware of how much those of us actually having the meltdown dread them, too. Behavioral meltdowns are hard, and they take a toll on everyone involved. For me, they are uncomfortable physically because of the stress on my body and chance…
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Through My Eyes: the autism symbol
Hi everyone. I am going to start a new series of blog posts about what my life is like as a young man living with autism. Understand that what I say is just my experience and may be very different than how others affected by this disorder might feel. But I imagine that I will have many common points of view with others who are experiencing life through this lens, and I would love it if others with autism would respond with comments so that I can appreciate how you have chosen to navigate your challenges. Today, I want to talk about the popular autism symbol, the blue or…
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A new year with new purpose
Hi everyone, As the new year approaches, I have spent some time thinking about the year that is ending and what I want for 2023. I am a goal-oriented person because it gives my mind something to focus on. Without a target, it is too easy for me to feel like I am stagnating and then I get depressed. 2022 was a good year but not a great one. I accomplished my biggest goal, which was to finish my first novel, called I Never Get Lost in the Woods. It will be published and available very soon. The protagonist of the story, Sandra, is a young adult like me who…