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Hi everyone,   I have been pondering a lot lately about what living in a speaking society means to those of us who are non-speakers. I recently learned that term, “non-speaker,” and how it is different from being “non-verbal.” I am verbal.  I make lots of noises, sounds, and words. I can communicate simple things with words, but I am hindered dramatically when it goes beyond a very basic level.  I certainly am unable to have a back-and-forth conversation about anything useful or important. So, in a speakers’ world, I am dysfunctional, a “non-speaker.”  Human society is set up for speakers. Non-speakers are almost unrecognizable as people. We are more like…

Goals are important for everyone. They provide motivation and a pathway for self-improvement. Without some sort of goal, we will either wander without direction or, even worse, stagnate in the same place. I have learned for myself how important it is to set goals that will challenge me to push outside of my comfort zone. Hard goals drive me to really change for the better. But I also realize that I need to be patient with how autism affects my abilities to accomplish things that might otherwise be much easier. Today, I want to talk about what I have learned about myself by setting goals and working hard to achieve…

Hello again, everyone. Thank you for reading and I hope you are finding my insights helpful. Today, I want to talk about how difficult it is for people with autism and other disabilities to feel included by our more typical peers. I have mentioned in a previous post how I have frequently felt jealous of others who are my same age but were having vastly different experiences as they matured. An age-level appropriate education is one of those experiences, for sure. I would have loved to have been challenged in high school with real grades, AP tests, and college-entrance exams. But no one knew that my mind was capable of…

Hi again, everyone.  This is the third post in my series about what it is like to have autism. For those who haven’t met me, let me describe my current relationship with language and what the journey has been like for me. Speech is the natural way that most people communicate with each other and is one of the first things that we start learning as an infant.   But for some reason, the brains of many people with autism work in a different way. For us, speech is hard.   When I was diagnosed with autism as a young child, I had some verbal language. To clarify, I could say some words,…

Hi, everyone. I appreciate the great response to my last post about autism symbols and how I would prefer to be seen as an acorn with great tree-like potential rather than a random piece of an unsolved puzzle.   Today, I want to focus some attention on an uncomfortable topic for me:  behavioral meltdowns. These are dreaded by teachers, principals, therapists, and parents, I’m sure, but maybe you are not aware of how much those of us actually having the meltdown dread them, too.    Behavioral meltdowns are hard, and they take a toll on everyone involved. For me, they are uncomfortable physically because of the stress on my body and chance…

Hi everyone. I am going to start a new series of blog posts about what my life is like as a young man living with autism. Understand that what I say is just my experience and may be very different than how others affected by this disorder might feel.  But I imagine that I will have many common points of view with others who are experiencing life through this lens, and I would love it if others with autism would respond with comments so that I can appreciate how you have chosen to navigate your challenges.    Today, I want to talk about the popular autism symbol, the blue or…

Hi everyone, As the new year approaches, I have spent some time thinking about the year that is ending and what I want for 2023.  I am a goal-oriented person because it gives my mind something to focus on.  Without a target, it is too easy for me to feel like I am stagnating and then I get depressed.   2022 was a good year but not a great one.  I accomplished my biggest goal, which was to finish my first novel, called I Never Get Lost in the Woods.   It will be published and available very soon.  The protagonist of the story, Sandra, is a young adult like me who…

Hi everyone.  Today is my mom’s birthday and I want to celebrate her publicly in a way that I know she won’t be happy with.  Sorry, Mom, but I want the world to know what you mean to me.  I can’t imagine what it is like to find out as a young mother that your child is going to have a lifelong disability. I’m sure that my mom’s first reaction and desire was for God to give it to her instead.  But, that wasn’t His plan.   Her second reaction, I know, was to fix it, to find the cure.   She dove into that effort head first and full-time.   The hours…